It’s kind of weird talking about becoming pregnant and planning a family…because you are in essence discussing your sex life, and that’s not really a topic I want to go over with 99% of people. I still vividly remember telling my {male} boss I was pregnant with Drew and discussing her due date, and it just felt so weird. Luckily, he didn’t make any comments and only offered a heartfelt, “Congratulations!”, but sometimes we aren’t so lucky, are we?
Well today we have a list of the top annoying questions about having/creating babies!
1. Vanessa and Allison have both shared about their unexpected journeys to motherhood. I’m sure they had a lot of fun answering the question ‘Was it planned?‘ That just opens a whole can of worms that no one probably wants to get into. And really does it matter? Also closely related ‘Did you take fertility drugs?‘
2. It seems you just popped out that new bundle of love, and someone always asks ‘When are you going to have another one?‘ SERIOUSLY? Can I not enjoy the baby I worked hard to grow, nurture and BIRTH? I think every friend I have has been asked this question.
3. Then when you are pregnant, people want to know what you’re having and if you’re happy about it. ‘Oh great, a girl, now you have one of each!‘ Or ‘Oh, another boy? Will you try for another to have a girl?‘ I get offended with all of these comments. Are you telling me how I should feel about the baby my partner and I lovingly created? Can’t I just be happy and in love with having a BABY?
4. I have also been asked a lot of times “Are you going to have more?” now that we have 2 {and 1 of each, ha}. And maybe I get upset at this one because my answer is ‘I say yes and my husband says no.‘ Ha. But seriously the decision my husband and I will make about expanding our family is very personal, and it isn’t always easy to answer. Also, if we are done having kids, do you want to be involved in the discussion of how we prevent further pregnancy? Vasectomy or IUD…???
5. I also hated when I got questions about Drew’s due date {12/26}. I invariably got asked ‘Are you okay having a Christmas baby? How sad for her!‘ Um…sad? Seriously? This child will be loved beyond all measure and while she may want for things, she will never NEED anything.
Here are some more I’ve overheard and think to myself, “Seriously?! Who has the guts to say that to someone?”
- They don’t look like you, are they both yours? Do you want one that looks like you were there, lol?
- You realize if you had another, you’d be outnumbered right? (No, dummy, I can’t add 2+1 to get 3 and realize 3 is more than 2)
- Have you pulled the “goalie”, yet? (How is THIS anyone’s business?!)
- You should tell your family if this is it so they don’t have high expectations about a bunch of grand kids.
- Have you closed the shop or are you still open for business?
- Is it time for the “mommy makeover” or do you want more?
- When will we hear the pitter patter of little steps again?
- Now that you’ve got that one out of diapers, it’ll be time for the next one!
- You already have 3, why don’t you think about adoption?
- Do you think your first will be jealous when you have another?
- Wow, it’s almost time for a little snip snip, huh?
- Are you hoping for one with blue eyes? (I’m not a paint by numbers factory!)
- Do the late night feedings make you keep your legs crossed tighter?
- How far do you want them spaced? (People don’t realize there’s little control over when we conceive & when they baby actually arrives)
- Are you pregnant again yet?
Or worse yet…
- You’re pregnant again?
Now I genuinely feel that most people asked questions with good intentions and were very kind and thoughtful, so I hope this doesn’t come across too mean.
But seriously… What about you? What were you asked about having children that irked you?
