His Needs, Her Needs.
It’s a book. A pretty good one, from what I hear. It’s on my list of my books to start reading before the end of the month (which gives me two days to buy it and get started). Meanwhile, my hubby is halfway through and he hasn’t even had it a week (he’s a kindle reader and I prefer a real book).
Last Friday, I was out with two wonderful girlfriends and inevitably, after we spent too much time talking about our children, we started talking about our husbands and one of my girlfriends mentioned this book — said it changed her marriage. She’s been married ten years and I thought hey, why not read it! It certainly can’t hurt (we’re going on 12 years of marriage).
Although, really, his needs? I haven’t even read the book, and I’m certain sex is the main need. And a sexy wife to have lots of sex with … and don’t forget admiration from his sexy wife (men and their egos). I don’t think we have a big male following given that this isn’t Austin Dads Blog … but I bet if you ask your hubby his main need, he’d tell you sex was number one. Maybe having a sexy wife is pushing it a little bit …but it’s just a guess. After all, our bodies seem to change after we have kiddos. Thank you God for inventing stretch marks. They are so lovely on my inner thighs.
So I asked my husband to write a small blurb for this blog entry about he book and the mans needs.
“Pretty much sex. Frequent sex. Passionate sex. Naughty sex. Wear sexy clothing around the house. That, and domestic support is what the book said men need. I made sure the book wasn’t written in the 1950’s. Domestic support is cooking for your men (grilled cheese, hotdogs, and opening cans of beans doesn’t count), keeping the house tidy and taking care of the kids while the men hunt and gather food to feed the clan. I agree domestic support is a nice to have, but my top 3 needs are sex, no nagging/reminding, and that domestic support thing. Get on it.”
Opening a can of beans don’t count as cooking a meal? Shucks.
And no nagging? Wow.
Anyway, so the best part about ‘her needs’ (and keep in mind, I haven’t even bought the book yet) … is that I knew my husband started reading the book because he was actually asking me questions and giving me all sorts of feedback! And he was actually making eye contact with me and not his damn phone or the basketball game on the boob-tube. What do you bet that in the book it says something like, “if her needs are met you will have more sex.”
A happy marriage is so very important — and having lots of sex makes your man happy. I don’t really need to read a book that tells me that — but I’m committed to reading it. I’d ask how much sex you are having but I know it’s a personal subject … but if you aren’t at the recommendation of three times a week, maybe you should read the book.
PS: I just left him on the couch to come and write my article and he quoted the book, “thank you for the alone time … all fifteen minutes of it …which is against the direct recommendation of fifteen hours per week.” I’m still giggling to myself. He’s taking this book seriously. 🙂
