Tell Mama Who Hurt You…

Sweet Caroline with a scratched up face.

I’m not sure how many of you do the preschool thing, but when your child becomes victim to a bite, scratch or other form of toddler assault, the preschool cannot tell you the name of the perpetrator. Well, lucky for me, my child does…every time…and it’s always the same little one.

Like any good mama would, I called the school and inquired about the incident(s) and, like any good school would, they told me they were doing their best to keep the kids apart.

Well, what do you know, the next week Caroline came home with the double-scratch on her cheek. UGH. The story, as told by my colorful two-year-old, is that Caroline was playing with a toy when “The Perp” {Any Law and Order fan in the house?} came and snatched it. Who knows what really happened in between the toy snatch and the double-scratch, but the end result is that I now have a two-year-old on “my list.”

Yup, you read that right, I’m annoyed with a two-year-old…no, not annoyed…I honest to goodness do not like another two-year-old.  Call me crazy, but this kid keeps hurting my baby and I want her out (of school that is). Is that normal?  Have you every had feelings of dislike toward a child in your child’s class?  Am I a terrible person?  AND how are we supposed to resolve this type of conflict when you’re not supposed to know who is hurting who?

Being the avid research that I am (ha!) I Googled the situation and all I could find was articles about moms hating their  two-year-olds…dead serious…and that is certainly not helpful.  I don’t hate my kid, I don’t like another kid.

I need your HELP.



Vanessa Barry

About Vanessa Barry

Vanessa is the co-founder of Austin Moms Blog. She is also the Director of Communications for IDEA Public Schools, a nationally recognized network of K-12 pubic charter schools serving more than 15,000 students. She has a blast learning, loving and laughing with her three-year-old little lady, Caroline Grace.

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One Response to Tell Mama Who Hurt You…

  1. Brandi February 5, 2013 at 10:20 pm #

    that is not fun to have your baby get hurt at school. I will say, though, now that I am an owner & director & teach 3 yr olds one or more days a week, I can say that incidents like this happen so fast & usually right near an adult. we had a biter who bit at arms length away from the teacher & there is no way to ‘reach out & stop it.’ Accidents happen so fast, or incidents. I would suggest you ask if the kiddo doing the hurting is hurting other students as well or if it seems the child is just targeting your daughter. We have found that the kids who don’t give in (maybe your daugher) to the ‘rougher’ kids (the rougher one being the one who’s hurting your daughter) tend to get the brunt of the hits, scratches, etc. As in, if they ‘fight back’ for the toy, etc.. the ‘hurter’ goes at her. still not ok… but I have been surprised at how/when/& to who our incidents happen! I agree with the others who suggested asking if the other kid can move to a different class, you also have the right to stay & observe (in secret from your little one if needed) to see how the classroom is being run to make sure things are being addressed. Good luck & I hope your little one quits getting hurt!

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